Wednesday, January 07, 2009

Who Is Really Hurting Marriage?

The following article was written by Edward Fudge. Since I have been pretty vocal against homosexuality, I thought this article puts things in true perspective. Why aren't we as outraged at those who have made a mockery of marriage by breaking their marriage covenants through adultery (affecting 50% of marriages) as we are about "homosexual marriage" (affecting 2-3%)?

All sin is sinful and all of us are sinners. Those truths are easily forgotten today, as many "righteous" people seem to limit "sin" to sexual wickedness, of which they are quite sure that God considers homosexual misbehavior to be the very worst sort. Seeking some biblical perspective, I looked up nine major "sin lists" found in the New Testament (Matt. 15:18-19; Rom. 1:28-31; 1 Cor. 6:9-10; Gal. 5:19-21; Eph. 4:25-31; Col. 3:5-9; 1 Tim. 1:8-10; 2 Tim. 3:1-5 and Titus 3:3). Taken together, these nine passages identify at least 37 specific sins, which encompass wrong attitudes (14), improper speech (4) and forbidden conduct (19).

The statistical observations that follow are neither scientific nor theological but they are interesting and stimulate thought. Outward sins begin in the heart, said Jesus, and sinful attitudes include envy, covetousness, jealousy, malice, enmity, bitterness, anger, faithlessness, heartlessness and ruthlessness. Most frequently named in these nine lists (three times each) are envy, anger, slander, theft and the general term "sexual immorality." Crusading against sexual immorality is popular among church folks, but where is the moral outrage over the first three sins in that set?

More than 80% of the 37 specific sins named are unrelated to sex. The seven sins that are sexual in character are adultery, sexual immorality, orgies, impurity, sensuality and homosexual conduct. Of these, the most often-named is "sexual immorality," which is also the most general by definition. Tying for second place in biblical attention are adultery (which ensnares 40-60% of married Americans at some time) and homosexual conduct (which probably involves 2-5% of the population, though pro-gay advocates claim 10%). Which of those two sins do you suppose poses the greater threat to marriage? Of all sinners, which one should concern us most? Surely it is that sinner whom we face each morning in the mirror (Luke 18:9-14).

It breaks my heart that homosexuals are able to say, "How can us marrying hurt the institution of marriage?  Heterosexuals have done that through their own breaking of the marriage vows."  But they are right. 


Josh Ross said...

Convicting words!

Lauren said...

This breaks my heart as well! This gives me A LOT to pray about. The real Destroyer of the marriage covenant has had way too many victories in my opinion. It is our obligation and honor as children of God to continue to hold up the sacred institution of marriage in deep prayer. Thanks for this.