Monday, June 21, 2010

Father's Day

Yesterday was a really difficult day for me. Actually, it was brutal. My 1st Father's Day to ever spend without the one who originally bestowed that honor on me. And ironically, my text yesterday was the 5th Commandment: Honor your father and mother. This was a challenge for a couple of reasons. 1. Coming from a dysfunctional family, I find this commandment to be particularly difficult. But 2, it has a promise that if you do honor your parents you will live long in the land. Well, my daughter honored me and Beverly, and she didn't receive the promise. I know there is obviously more meant there than length of life. But when you are where we are right now, things look really different.

Also, today I am officiating at my 1st funeral since Jenny died. As I sat before my Bible late yesterday afternoon trying to come up with words for a grieving family, I was overwhelmed myself with grief. I'm glad no one else was in the office at the time.

I was blessed to be able to play Champions Golf Club in Houston last week. That course has hosted a U.S. Open, Ryder Cup, and several Players' Championships. It was a real treat.


Jeff said...

You did a great job yesterday.

I don't pretend to understand all of scripture or to be able to tell you something that will help. That said, when I read the commandment and it says "that you may live long in the land God has given you" I think of heaven being the land that God has given us and Jenny living long in that land.

I pray that God will give you healing and peace. Thank you for being such a great friend to me.

rgolf48 said...

I thought about texting you yesterday, but I didn't know what to say. I continue to pray for God's peace to overwhelm you.

randy said...

It was evident that your grief colored your words today. When John Scott spoke at Krystal's funeral it was evident that his grief shaped his words as well. I suppose that I would rather hear one word from someone who appreciates grief than 10,000 words from someone who does not. I appeciated his thoughts and I am comfident Roberta's family appreciated your word of hope as well.

summer said...

I appreciate you sharing, Rick, even through the most difficult of days. My heart still aches for your great loss; for what we all lost because of the beauty Jenny brought into the lives of all she knew and loved. She loved you so very much.

Lisa Hale said...

I follow your reflections weekly and have done so since Jenny's passing. Your strength and words are an encouragement to me daily and I appreciate them. My prayers are always there with your family.